From my pen...for you!

2016 and 2017 were tough and learning year for me. The way, 2015 made me reach the destination station, I had no clue that 2016 and 2017 would be the mixture of good and bad. But, you know, life becomes boring when you do the same thing again and again. I am so much grateful to life. It gives me surprises time to time, brings happiness and at the same time gives me goose bumps.
Things that should be put in my sack from 2016 and 2017 are not less. These are like ‘Gold in the Garbage’ type of things. I know you would be thinking about Anees Jung writing ‘Lost Spring’ after reading that ‘Gold’ line. Actually, this line ‘Searching for gold in the garbage’ is so much in apt for 2016 and 2017 on my part.So, before wishing you all the same line, which I have been doing time and again. Yes! The same lines about ‘Wish you all a very very  Happy New year’, I would like to share something, which I think, I should put in my sack and perhaps it will also help you. The first thing I want to say that ‘Never Take Anything for Granted’, nothing in this world is permanent, not even you. So, don’t keep promises, don’t bet on your self respect, and do whatever you want to do, whatever your heart says to do because nothing is for granted.
Secondly, ‘Enjoy Everything, Be Attached to Nothing’.  Yes! You read those six words on a right note. There is no need to get attached to every fucking thing. Persons come and go, situations come and go, they are never going to stop just for the sake of your fucking happiness.
Third string is that, you must admit the fucking, soul wrenching fact that ‘God, sees you as the Unwanted one. He doesn’t care at all for you; he doesn’t even know that you exist. So, you are on your own. God’s unwanted children, so, be it. Period. You fall, get up, tie that fucking laces and start running. (Okay! I admit it. It is from my classic favorite 'The Fight Club').Fourth, kill that all emotions camping inside you. There is no need for that. ‘Get emotional, go home, buddy’, that is my thought. World doesn’t care what you feel, what you understand and at what bar graph of percentage you are emotional. You must suppress everything. But, the point is that, suppress your emotion not yourself. No one knows you, the way you do. Do whatever you feel to, say whatever is in your heart, kill that shame. You know, what a good thing being a blunt is? Being blunt gives you the power to break every rules which are just a garbage. The rules which are not required.
As you decamp the emotions, you would automatically bin the shames. It will be hard, but it will  be fun.Last but the most important one; Take Risks. Yes, take every fucking risk. Get out of that couch, blanket, room, because a life without a risk, is nothing but a dead body inside the coffin. But, before doing that stunt, take advice from the stuntman. Before, you decide to give the Risk Taking a shot, firstly analyze the situation, whether it is worth or not. See, whatever we do in life is for own benefit, we are selfish in some way or other, there is no shame in admitting it, it is just a human behavior. So, analyze the situation then accordingly make the plan, the roadman about how would you take that risk and what will you do if you fail. You must have some alternatives if you fail. *Touchwod*.

So,with this golds which I found in the garbage of 2016 and 2017, I biding my adieu to these two years. I hope that you had a energetic, learning and a bunch of blah blah year and I also hope that in the upcoming year 2018 you have the same.And, yes Travel. As far as you can. Visit new places, spent some time with people of that place and moreover spend time with yourself while you travel, because, it is my personel experience that one good travel cam teach you many life lessons and as you know life is a book, if you don’t travel you just stay at one page only or should I say life is Facebook, and if you don’t scroll down to your news feed then you will get bored by viewing the same thing again and again. So scroll down, react to new experiences, new events and at top react to yourself.Note: Travel with a book.Happy New Year.
Harsh Deep

Know how to think-Know what to think

Information, Information and Information! We are surrounded by it. From our morning to last touch of our phones/laptops/i pads, we are feeding on Information. This is good, not only good, this is best thing that has happened to the mankind. I mean, seriously, we don’t need to wait for the newspaper waalas to come and throw newspaper at our doorstep and get updated instead we throw tons of unsuitable words to our internet provider the moment we realize that the dabba(router) which gives us access to the information is not working.

This easy access to information has given us the access to information, but it has also put a cap on our thinking capabilities. We have forgotten that knowledge is a process, a process which simultaneously moves with thinking. We acquire the information and then that’s it! We don’t think upon that. We are memorizing the information. If we are given some task, and are asked to work upon that task. We choose the old systematized way, the way we have memorized to solve a problem rather than to think about the problem for a minute, two minutes or even for 10 minutes (depending on the deadline), rather than to go and search for the solutions from a book, internet or anywhere and then begin our work on that issue. But, rather than doing this, we just start our work on that without thinking and there comes a line of difference between a thinker and a non-thinker. The ‘Thinker’ in this case knows how to think and hence he/she knows what to think but the ‘Non-Thinker’ individual relies on the prior information and he/she doesn’t know how to think in a new way and hence don’t know what to think.

The ‘Thinker’, in fact has an fair idea about how to use his/her mind by breaking the chains of older/rusted information. What we read on the internet is good, but it is more important that we don’t get stuck to that information and kill our own thinking.

We have been gifted with the most powerful tool, The Brain, we should not kill our think tank by not utilizing its power of Thinking.

Get information, but think before using it.

‘When you realize how to think, it empowers you far beyond from those who know only what to think’.

             -Neil deGrasse Tyson

Two platforms, Two faces

  You are a mystery, Wait for the right detectives

I used to chat with an online friend. We became good friends, in other words we were best online friends. He was a guy with good sense of humor and perhaps he had copyrights over sarcastic comments. One night, I was at party and fortunately, he was also there. I sensed something different in him that night. He was calm, not the person I knew. It would have made sense, if it was an official gathering. I thought, why is he behaving like this but my all efforts went in vein.

From that evening, whenever I got some free time, I used to think why people are like this? Why they behave differently on the two different platforms? Two thoughts flashed in my mind and maybe it is accurate also, or it may be redundant. You are free to give your points.

The thought that came up was that maybe, people feel more safe when they are behind the screen. They don’t need to come up with an instant reply then and there only. They get some time to think when they are behind the screen and this activity is not possible when you are face to face with someone. Second thought that came up was that, maybe people who are more active behind the screen are those peeps who think that their full identity is unknown to the other person, i.e, the other person with whom they are talking don’t know them or say, they know them to that extent only to which the people (more active behind the screen) wants them to know. So, it becomes more comfortable for the peers to cover themselves in the clothes of that personality which is not for them or which they dream of.

These are my thoughts, you are more than welcome to give your views on this.

These online social platforms have done two things. First is that, it has given ‘voice to those who are inexpressible during face to face talks and which is good because at least those people are now able to express themselves and the second thing it has done is that it has stripped off their true nature from them’. You say, what kind of people would you like? Would you like to be friends with those peeps who are same on both the platforms or with those who have two faces on two platforms?

And to those who have two faces on two platforms, please give it a try to be your true self on both sides because then only people with whom you want to be friends will take you as their friends. If you are not able to express yourself face to face, it is absolutely fine because,believe me, people find these types of people interesting and for them you would be like a mystery and as you know people always try to solve the mystery and for that they will come to you. Now, you will ask what if they are not interested in mysteries? The answer would be that ‘Is it necessary to make friends or be with someone who is not interested in you’? Would you like to be with someone who is not at all interested in you?

If you are not able to express yourself then you are a mystery, and the right detectives will try to solve you. You don’t need to wear a mask to make yourself a straight path because that will make you a bore person and will also harm your authenticity.

And yes, you are free to give your thought on this topic. 

3D View of Life

Suppose, you love writing. You are writing, writing and writing all day long without any end to that story. How will you feel? Irritated? Dumb?  or if any other adjective you have in your mind, you can use it.

So, to finish that story you got to have some end to that. Same is with Life. If you are continuously walking without any goal to reach somewhere, you are just wasting your time and Life’s time as well. You got to have aim, some destination for yourself then only you will able to absorb the essence of life, which is ‘Excitement’, without which life becomes dull. And if you don’t have any goal then you will continue to do the same thing again and again and that is where it becomes dull, frankly, you will become dull.

Let me give you a glass, which we all use in theatres to experience a film more lively on the screen. Yes! You got it right. It is 3D glass. With it, you will be able to experience life with depth, with its true beauty and feel.

This 3D is ‘Dream, Determination, Discipline’. I will keep it short so that after reading this article you get some time to use this 3D glass.

Let us go to the Writing example. Suppose you have a dream to write a book, and you are writing it with a dream to get it published, so now you are with a goal, a dream, and not like earlier where you didn’t have any goals and where you were just writing and writing and wasting your precious time. Now, this dream of yours will push you forward to get it done at any cost, going beyond any barriers. During this whole barrier crossing things you will face many down moments, like, you will not get what to write after one scene or you will not like what you have written or the most common thing that we face during writing is when you have to wake up at night just to write one paragraph and who likes to unwrap oneself from the arms of our beloved sleep, so this is where ‘Determination’ steps in and hugs us.

This word Determination is not just a combination of  6 vowels and 8 consonants, it is a pack of muscles which can lift you up from any situations, any pit. You just have to call it once and it will be with you until last. If you have decided to get something then your Determination will make sure that you have every means to get your goal. It will provide you with Self-confidence which will further fix the track for you to get that goal.

Coming to our last D, which is Discipline, without which your Dream and Determination, both are futile. You have to get married to this term if you want to achieve your goal. Again, in writing, if you are writing something and you have not fixed any deadline within which you will achieve your last full stop of that story, then you will be writing lethargically which will again be the first instance where you were writing without any goal/dream. You will be like, ‘I will do it some other day’ ‘I don’t have any deadline given then why do I write everyday’ and this way your book will never see its deserving full stop, its deserving pack of writers and you will not get you pack of FANs.

If you want to achieve something in your given share of LifeTime, then you will need to wear Life’s 3D glasses. You can get yours by ordering it from your soul store. Contact your soul and order it and wear it.

Have a happy view of your life.

Harsh Deep

Send a friend request to VALUES and ETHICS

Last week, during an interaction with very down to earth yet flying high in the sky person (I am not disclosing his name because of privacy), I came across a very serious topic which we are forgetting these days. The topic was ‘Ethics’ or in a simple word ‘VALUES’.

So, what does this word mean? Let me tell you. Values or Ethics simply means your own ground rules, your life principles, and your own family cognizance. Without these little yet heavy things our life has no sense. Moving on to other things that defines Values and Ethics are things like Humanity, giving appraisals to those who are doing great works, accepting your mistake when you are wrong and accepting defeat with wide open arms. The list is long but these things are the crux.

21^st century is nothing but basically a century in which we are bending towards the western culture. We are accepting their culture but are slowly throwing water to the beautiful painting of the Indian Culture. To know the Value of our Values, we must thrive towards the zeal to know our culture first. Our culture teaches us to offer a thank you to those who help us in living a better life. We are forgetting that how much beneficial and peaceful is to offer a thank you to that one supreme power who created us. He is not only god, this could be anything. Things like trees, sun, moon, earth or anything that are supporting you to lead this beautiful life are worth of a thank you. Offer Prayers to him at least for one minute and see the difference that it makes into your life. Say thank you to your nearby trees and grasses and see the satisfaction that you get. All these above things are basically a part of Humanity which in turn merges with Values and Ethics.

All these things teach us things that you cannot learn in any Business Schools or IITs or others. We are in those years where an MBA degree is praised or valued. MBA teaches us how to become a great manager or how to lead a successful life, basically it teaches us to Praise your colleagues, Accept your mistake and move on or it teaches us to accept weak moments or defeats with open arms. Did you see what I am trying to say? I think that you have made a connection. MBA degree or any degrees are just like boosting station to your life, to your values or ethics. Remember just a boosting station. For arriving to a boosting station, we first have to create the product and that could be done only by creating your Ethics, Values or Principle for your life.

Your Values and Ethics are also the backbone to Ethical leadership. If you have not created or made your life’s principle clear then there is not anyway you cannot lead your colleagues because the very basic requirement of being a great leader is trust, honest, and charisma, which can only be learnt in the school of life.

So, login into school of life and first thing on your check list should be to send friend request to Values and Ethics, so that they could guide you towards a successful and a happy life.

‘Remember, there is no any best school or institutes in the world than Life itself. But it only takes those who have passed the test of Values and Ethics.’

Harsh Deep.

Give a hi5 to your past!

Past never leaves us. It somehow finds a way to haunt us, sometimes as a nightmare or sometimes the present situation reminds us about our past. It has forfeited us all. No one is spared.

But the past has something to tell us, something to teach us.

‘Nothing lasts forever’, accept this. Nothing lasts. From a best friend to a love, all gets fucked over. The past somehow is related with that term. Whenever we see the old ones, the past somehow manages to pave down its way to our memory lane and we all fall to that. We know that, it will hurt but we take that risk and forget the fact that ‘Nothing lasts forever’.

We often run from our pasts and as a result it haunts us. Don’t run from it, face it, talk to it, Go back, smile at those moments, smile at those silly funny moments. Sit down there with those past moments and note down the mistakes you did there, learn from them.

Remember, sitting down in solitude is not a bad thing. People often term the solituDers as anti-social. It’s not that. Sit with yourself. Talk to yourself, go back to your past but remember don’t relive them, only learn from them. It will give you pleasure because a moment spent with yourself will definitely be the best of your moments.
Time alone spent is a time that shows us who we truly are!

Harsh Deep.

Life is all about Run. Stop. Think. Repeat.

Life is not always gonna run on the same track. There will be times when you will have to change the track in order to avoid the collision with your past or something harsh that you can't handle.
That's the thing, you have to recognise which situation is harsh for you or which situation you can't handle, then make the choice, whether you want to continue on the same track or change it.
We have stereotyped life in a nutshell that it always wants us to run. It is not like that, sometimes it wants us to slow down for a moment, relax, cool down and think about the best possible options to take and then proceed ahead.
So, run as fast as you can, but take out some moments to calm down and slow down or preferably stop for a moment or two and think about what you actually want and discover the best possible route for yourself and then run on the track.
And yes, don't forget to change the tracks whenever you feel necessary!
Harsh Deep